Questions from a former student of mine who is about to get married that i will now answer in paragraph form.
Love means many things to me but it for most is means a feeling of overwhelming devotion and caring for another human being. ( the difference between love & lust is lust is more of a physical want and desire usually devoid of an emotion connection. love has those same feelings but with empathy, kindness and respect in the forefront) the 3 biggest problems i have faced in a relationship are lack of trust, lack of communication and cultural differences. the 3 most important things to have to keep a relationship happy, healthy & stable for me are open and honest communication, a genuine like for that person or in better words a good friendship and economic stability. is it more important to be single or rebound with people after a breakup is a tough question. depending on how the former relationship ended time alone to heal could be what is best for you but sometimes you really do need another person to help you get over a broken heart. you just have to be honest about a rebound situation and not to confuse it with love. when things get hard in a relationship i choose to try to fix it. all relationships are a work in progress you cant just give up at the first sign of trouble. new elements may have been added into the relationship, people also grow and change so there maybe something new for you to discover about that other person. is intimacy & romance more important to you or communication & friendship? i left this question as is because i don’t believe that you can have one with out the other. you cant not experience true intimacy with someone if you aren’t friends first and can share your inner most thoughts with that other person and you cant be romantic if you are unable to communicate your feeling to someone or able to hear and understand theirs and what they like and desire.
i hope this helps theoharris!!!!!
my life is wrapped in a dark cloud. a dark cloud of fear given power my circumstance and the facts of life. i am afraid. as a young kid first learning to run and play, hit with asthma. as a teenager finally getting to play football, a sport he loves, disc slipped after a hit in practice. didn’t even get hurt during a game. after learning to walk again and preparing for his first real adult party, being allowed to drink and all, diagnosed with diabetes. life changing diagnosis. as a young adult finally moving out on my own after so many growing pains, job screws me, cuts my wages have to move back home. thank you hector rodriguez. life gets better, you move on, you grow and adapt. finally ready to move out again. take that trip to Ireland. found a balance with friends family and work. my appendix burst. gets twice infected and with a 45 day stay in the hospital what little heath i had is gone. get out of the hospital only to lose my job and well here we are. two years later, free to do what i always should have done in being a writer. my health seems to finally be picking back up and there is this book…… a book that is my dream. to finally have my words out there and people reading them and debating their meaning and dissecting my words and and and………..i am afraid. i am afraid that if i accomplish this goal, that if i complete one more dream. that i am not strong enough to fight the next bad thing that will come from it. don’t think this way they say. be strong. be positive. god has a plan. it will all work out. they haven’t seen my track record. they haven’t lived in my cloud.
yesterday i had one of the most liberating experiences in my life. i felt and sensed a lot of different things but the most important thing that i experienced was the present. i experienced the moment. i experienced the present. i wasn’t concerned with the future. i wasn’t worried about the past. i was there in that one moment with a cup. the only ting that mattered to me was that cup, what it could do, what i could do to it and if i wanted to do anything to it. in that moment there was no pain, there was no sadness, there was no heartache, only life. i finally understand why people say live in the now because when you do life becomes more simple. yet, i had a thought when my experience was over. if i live only in the now, it is really good to forget the past but then how do i prepare for the future?
” I rather people hate than love me. They can easily remember that they hate you. They easily forget that they love you.”
” You want to live the life you havent earned.”
” right next to the Sun Ztu i keep a King or two.
and right next to that quotes from that Nietzsche cat
then sitting over his shoulder i keep the Bible solider
so peep my readings my ammo to give you your mental beating”
” how do you measure a man? against his greatest ambitions or his base faults”
” if i did not believe in heaven i would ask is this an angel in front og me but since i believe in heaven i thank god for sending an angel on to me”
” in you i see the heavens that will be denied to me when i die”
” you know what i like about the arrogance of the damned? they already know their damned what do they have to be humble about”
they say there is somewhere to go
they say there is someplace to see
they say there is someone i’m supposed to be
Where Will I Get Caught
Where Will I Allow Capture
If I Get Caught At All
May 2 2006
will you miss me when i am gone?
and i don’t mean when im dead and buried cause my body is done
will you miss me when i am gone?
changed into a person which is not the man you love
the person who is not the friend you cherish
the person that you have taken granted for so long
will you miss me when i no longer call?
to help you to guide you to listen to your pain and troubles
will you understand when i leave?
that i must do this for me
that i want smile as much
wont take as much time for you
will you miss me because i want to be happy and it seems that i cant be happy caring about you
so i ask again will you miss me?
Jun 30 2008